Good morning friends. There are times in our lives, we commit mistakes and later on we realize that. It’s natural thing. We don’t totally stop that, but we can avoid it.
Do you find yourself thinking, I know she’ll say… or I know she wants…? If so, you’ve fallen into the trap of letting outcomes from the past rule the outcomes of the future. Thinking you know your partner is the fastest route to stagnation. There is no room for transformation here; no freedom for growth, experimentation or mystery. And mystery is where romance, interest and sex all reside.
If stale thinking is overtaking you, remind yourself that your partner is a stranger to you—a mysterious “other” with reactions, thoughts and values you have not even begun to tap. Instead of saying, “I know what she’; think,” ask her. “What do you think?” give her a chance to reveal herself to you.
Adapted from the book From This Day Forward: Meditations on the First Years of Marriage, by Toni Sciarra Poynter.
